Want to elevate your life? I got you! We are going to get into why Emotional Regulation is the jam. Then, we will get into some easy ways to build this skill.

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Wait…What is Emotional Regulation?

First, let’s clarify what is “emotional regulation”. In a nutshell, it is the healthy management of your emotions. It is the opposite of those moments when our mood takes over. You know, when you flip your lid and your emotions run the show. Then you may regret what you said or did. You can stop that train by emotionally regulating. This is one of the consistent themes I have noticed through my work as an educational psychologist.

So, why is emotional regulation the jam? Let’s get into the why and how to do it:

1. Communicate with Clarity of Thought

When we’re in the middle of intense emotions, communicating effectively can be tough. For example, you may just share your feelings without considering how your message will be received. That rarely works. In contrast, emotional regulation allows you to manage your emotions to communicate your perspective and feelings. Also, you can do so clearly and concisely.

2. Emotional Regulation Leads to Better Decision Making

Next, take a moment to think about the infinite number of decisions you make every day. Crazy right? Some of these choices can have a long term impact. However, when your in an escalated emotional state, your ability to make rational decisions is impaired. In contrast, managing yourself through emotional regulation helps you remain steady and level-headed. You end up making better decisions as a result. For instance, it allows you to pause before problem solving and think through the situation. Good stuff, right?

3. Overall Well-Being is Just Better

Also, having more control over your emotions gives you more control over your life! You will have a more balanced reaction to situations that would have derailed you in the past. Therefore, emotional regulation leads to reduced stress levels and overall improved physical health.

“Pausing to practice mindfulness for just a few minutes at different times during the day can help your days be better, more in line with how you’d like them to be.”

Source: Mindful

How to Practice Emotional Regulation

We talked about why emotional regulation is the jam, now let’s discuss some practical tips on how to build this skill:

1. Good Old Mindfulness

First, you probably heard about mindfulness. The reason why? It’s because it is an excellent tool for becoming more aware of your emotional state. To ground yourself and get back to your body. For example, you can take a few minutes each day to have some quiet reflection. This can range from taking a brief walk while attending to your thoughts and emotions without judgment. Similarly, try engaging in an easy repetitive task such as washing dishes, folding clothes, or coloring. The goal is to stay present.

2. Get Your Emotional Regulation with Personal Mantras

Your biggest critic is you. Therefore, when a wave of strong emotions comes in, using a personal mantra can calm you down. For instance, have a bank of positive self-talk statements that you can employ when you need some emotional regulation. These statements will anchor you through emotion-provoking situations. For example, telling yourself, “I can do this” or “this isn’t about me” can help you work through a situation.

3. Incorporate Stress Reducing Activities into Your Lifestyle

Lastly, embed stress-reducing activities into your life! For example, exercise, reading, cooking, or time with positive connections can help combat stress. Whatever works for you! The lower your stress level is, the easier it is to practice emotional regulation. Moreover, you will just feel more balanced when you develop routines and rituals that fill your cup.

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To wrap up, emotional regulation is the jam! It will boost your ability to communicate, make better decisions, and improve your overall functioning. Activities such as mindfulness, using personal mantras, and engaging in stress-reducing activities will jumpstart your ability to emotionally regulate. By doing so, you will take your life to the next level. Want more information on wellness? Check out the post here and here.

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